Summer is the star season. It only lasts three months, but we place all our expectations on it. We not only expect to have more sex but also aim to read the books we haven\u2019t touched throughout the year, visit many museums, and meet new people. We anticipate our lives changing by the magic of the June solstice.<\/p>\n
Above all\u2014 we\u2019re sure\u2014we\u2019ll have more sex. A lot more. No schedules, relaxed routines. What could go wrong?<\/p>\n
Cinthya Molina, clinical psychologist at SHA, neither confirms nor denies this expectation. She says it all depends on people\u2019s routines and lifestyle. “In summer, everyone is happy, people go out more, they\u2019re uninhibited. So, if you’re single, you\u2019ll probably have a great time, as there are more social interactions, which often lead to more intimate and sexual relationships,\u201d<\/em> she explains.<\/p>\n During vacations, there is usually a greater willingness for sexual encounters because there’s more free time and routines are broken, which is a common reason people seek help when they lack sex, due to the reduction of romantic and desire-filled moments. As stress and obligations decrease and free time increases, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphin levels rise, which enhances libido and pleasure.<\/p>\n However, if a couple is already in crisis and doesn\u2019t have a good bond, everything could blow up in the summer. \u201cThere are couples who live stressful lives and stay together because of the kids or family finances; when summer arrives, they have to spend more time together, and everything sparks because you\u2019re with someone you barely know and can\u2019t stand. It\u2019s a team that functions solely for the family business,<\/em>\u201d Cinthya explains. In these cases, summer not only won\u2019t bring more sex, but it could even trigger a breakup.<\/p>\n \u201cOn the other hand, couples with a strong bond, who lead busy lives and don\u2019t have time to connect, thrive in summer. Everything rekindles, and by the end of the vacation, they\u2019re asking, \u2018Well, why don\u2019t we do this more often?<\/em>\u2019\u201d says the SHA psychologist.<\/p>\n However, other factors can interfere with a couple\u2019s sex life during summer. For example, traveling to distant places, making exhausting plans, or simply staying in places with little privacy.<\/p>\n Sometimes, summer is when we realize that sex with our partner no longer interests us. If, instead of seeking intimate moments, we avoid them, it\u2019s likely a sign that something is wrong. This is one of the reasons that explain why breakups often spike after the summer.<\/p>\n And if we genuinely want to boost our sexuality during vacations, we shouldn\u2019t leave it to chance but rather plan vacations aligned with that goal. Some psychologists even recommend scheduling sexual dates. Summer on its own usually doesn\u2019t fix relationship problems.<\/p>\n The high expectations we place on summer can also lead to frustration. \u201cExpectations are based on comparisons. If you want to have Chiara Ferragni\u2019s summer, you\u2019re going to get frustrated. Or if you expect a romantic trip and hope to be moved watching the sunset with your husband of 30 years, well, you\u2019re probably going to get frustrated too,<\/em>\u201d says Cinthya, who believes that social media promotes unrealistic images and expectations.<\/p>\n \u201cThey say the secret to happiness is low expectations and a short memory,<\/em>\u201d reflects the SHA psychologist.<\/p>\n Expectations around the sex we want to have are also often based on comparisons that don\u2019t align with reality. \u201cIf you want to have the sex your friend says she has\u2014a multi-orgasmic goddess who squirts\u2014well, that\u2019s all a lie,\u201d <\/em>Cinthya explains, adding that women frequently seek help because they don\u2019t have vaginal orgasms through penetration. \u201cOh, like 90% of the women in the world,\u201d I tell them, and they reply, \u2018But my friends all have them,\u2019 and I say, \u2018Ma\u2019am, all your friends are lying,\u2019<\/em>\u201d Cinthya recounts.<\/p>\n Summer is a magical season, but not magical enough to fix what hasn\u2019t worked throughout the year. What\u2019s important is fostering bonds, relationships, and communication with your partner, no matter the season. Summer can be just another opportunity to reconnect, enjoy, and experiment, as long as expectations are realistic and the focus is on strengthening relationships beyond what seasons or social media may dictate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Summer is the star season. It only lasts three months, but we place all our expectations on it. We not only expect to have more sex but also aim to read the books we haven\u2019t touched throughout the year, visit many museums, and meet new people. We anticipate our lives changing by the magic of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":84173,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[746],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84172","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sha-magazine"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n