The Emotional Impact of Festivities: From Nostalgia to Well-Being

Christmas is undoubtedly one of the most emotionally charged and symbolic celebrations. As U.S. President Calvin Coolidge expressed in 1930: “Christmas is not a time or a season, but a state of mind.”

It is a time for family, but it can also be a painful reminder of those who are no longer with us. When someone is missing, their absence is deeply and painfully felt. On the other hand, when someone is present—such as relatives who don’t get along but feel compelled to meet due to family pressure—Christmas dinners can turn into ticking time bombs.

Many people experience depression during this season, avoid gatherings, or dread the moment they must feign happiness simply because it’s Christmas. In fact, it is well-documented that this festive season can intensify suffering and exacerbate mental health issues. Every ad, image, or song evoking smiling families and united friends can amplify feelings of loneliness in many, significantly impacting mental health. According to scientific literature, the number of suicides rises by up to 40% immediately after the holidays.

In Spain, the Christmas Observatory reports that 33% of Spaniards dislike these festivities. Additionally, 27% say they enjoy them only slightly, while 6% reject them entirely.

According to the American Psychological Association, nearly nine out of ten adults experience worry and stress during this season, driven by financial concerns, the absence of loved ones, and the anticipation of family conflicts. The study highlights that stress is a common issue during the Christmas season. Among respondents, 43% said stress interfered with their ability to enjoy the holidays, and 36% described the holidays as a competition. The high expectations of what we “should” do at Christmas versus what we can realistically achieve cause significant distress.

During the festive weeks, stress levels tend to rise due to an increased number of commitments, visual and auditory stimuli, crowds, social interactions, rushing, expenses, year-end reflections, and melancholic memories.

Christmas Syndromes: The Psychological Impact of the Season

The so-called Christmas Carol Syndrome refers to the stress caused by excessive consumerism, the obligation to appear happy, reunions with people we don’t get along with, elevated expectations about preparations, and societal pressure for everything to be perfect, including our own appearance.

Meanwhile, the Empty Chair Syndrome describes the sadness that overwhelms us when we feel the absence of a loved one. This phenomenon is common among those with hospitalized relatives, those going through grief, immigrants far from home, or individuals deprived of their freedom.

The Other Side of Christmas: An Emotional Balm

However, for those with strong family bonds, Christmas can serve as an emotional balm. Activities like singing together as a family can be particularly beneficial. A study by researchers at the University of Michigan found that group singing reduces stress levels and increases oxytocin in the blood, contributing to physical and emotional well-being.

Additionally, giving gifts has a positive impact on our happiness. According to a study by the University of British Columbia, thinking about others and engaging in thoughtful gestures boosts our well-being. The act of giving allows us to focus on the other person, reflect on our feelings for them, and appreciate their importance in our lives.

Tips for Maintaining Mental Health During Christmas

One of the best tips for protecting mental health during this season is to lower expectations. Don’t strive for perfection; be flexible. Also, avoid trying to be everywhere. Social media often showcases parties and events that can make you feel like you’re missing out on something better. This phenomenon, known as FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), is a significant source of anxiety.

Embrace traditions rather than resisting them. Ultimately, they are an opportunity to connect with those present and fondly remember those who are no longer with us.

Don’t impose constant happiness on yourself! Accept that Christmas won’t be perfect, but it is unique and personal. Enjoy it in your own way and within your means. Acknowledge that the holidays are an emotional rollercoaster, and remember that, like everything else, they will pass.